Never Sacrifice Your Self Worth to Make Someone Feel Worthy

We've all done it. But there comes a time in life when you've done enough work on yourself and put in enough time and effort into your own personal growth that it's no longer worth sacrificing everything you've gained in order to make another person feel better.

Before I go into this further, I want to explain spiritual energy levels and why they're so important:

There's a vibrational scale that we all exist within which ranges from the lowest vibration (guilt, shame, apathy) to the highest vibration (Enlightenment/full consciousness). Here on earth, the highest vibration you can achieve is Peace. True Peace is hard to rise up to because its an almost enlightened form of consciousness. It means that nothing can pull you down to the lower energy levels because you are already too aware spiritually. Now, this doesn't mean you never feel anger, frustration, sadness, grief etc. What it means is that when those emotions come up, they are dealt with and acknowledged from the lens of a higher vibration.

Now let's go back to the original message, "Never sacrifice your self worth to make someone feel worthy." Meaning, do not allow yourself to vibrationally be pulled back to a space you've worked very hard to rise up from.

I'll give you a personal example, *Disclaimer* If you are in a physically abusive situation, please do not embark on a similar journey to this story without the help of someone else who can protect you and remove you from a dangerous environment! With that said, here's my story:

Someone I love and someone who will always be in my life has an explosive temper. They used to become extremely verbally abusive whenever they were stressed, tired, anxious etc. For our entire relationship up until a few years ago I just swept how it made me feel under the rug and forgave them every time without a followup conversation letting them know how I felt. Our relationship became a game of me navigating them 24/7. I thought it would be emotionally safer and easier if I just let it go because I didn't want to anger that person further.

In those moments I didn’t just lower my worth, I decimated it. I told the universe that, in that dynamic, I meant nothing. Eventually it broke me. I couldn't exist like that, so I started a healing journey through therapy and spiritual work. Once I was in a better place and had gained the tools to fully express what I needed and how our dynamic had to change I was able to set boundaries. It made them RAGE. The first time I set the boundary they became uncontrollably angry. Not only did I set the boundary, I also set a consequence if it was crossed.

It wasn't an overnight success. For a full year we had a strained relationship because the consequence of overstepping my boundaries was that they had limited access to me emotionally and we could not spend time together one-on-one. I told them, "if you speak to me this way and you are unwilling to change, I won't be putting myself in a position to be in your firing line anymore. I won't be talking to you as frequently and our time together will be very surface level and casual."

It wasn't easy. Part of our old dynamic was that I felt the need to make them feel better whenever something was wrong. Now I was walking away from them when they behaved that way, or I would hang up the phone if they got nasty. Sometimes I would take long stretches of time where we had no contact if their behavior became too hurtful.

Eventually they started their own healing journey. They started to raise their own vibration. In the past I allowed myself to be guilted and shamed back down to a lower energy level. Now, this person was raising their vibration to meet me where I was.

The moment I decided my emotional and spiritual well-being was more important than appeasing someone else and helping them justify their bad behavior, my life radically changed. Because the truth is, change is hard. It's so much easier to stay in a low vibration.

Think of it like climbing a rope: it's so easy to slide to the bottom, but you're going to burn your hands in the process and it'll take days for those rope burns to go away. Fight to reach the top, to reach that next level. Don't keep getting burned to visit someone you love at the bottom, let them climb the rope to see you.